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Raising respectful boys: Daily conversations that can bring about a change

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As a parent, your everyday conversations with your son can greatly impact his thinking, as well as his interactions with the girls. After all, change really and truly does begin at home

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How To Raise Respectful Boys

We are often guilty of 'gender stereotypes' knowingly or unknowingly. To raise respectful boys, let’s stop using certain words and phrases at home. Here is what you can do instead.

Boys have emotions too

Wrong: Why are you crying like a girl?
Right: You seem to be upset about something. Do you want to talk about it?

Boys are as much responsible as girls

Wrong: Boys will be boys (even if the phrase is used for fun).
Right: Children will be children.

Being brave isn't about being 'manly'

Wrong: In tough situations, behave like a man.
Right: In tough situations, be brave and resilient.

Girls can be assertive too

Wrong: She is so aggressive, just like a boy.
Right: She is an assertive and confident girl.

Household work is not just girls' responsibility

Wrong: Son, ask your sister to set the table.
Right: Son, it's your turn to set the table today.

Girls are not the only ones who complain

Wrong: What are you complaining for, like a girl?
Right: What are you complaining about?

Women can have muscles too

Wrong: She is too muscular, like a man.
Right: She is fit and healthy.

Football can be played by both boys and girls

Wrong: Why does your sister have to play football? It's a boy's game.
Right: Your sister has a natural talent for the game.

Boys can be as sincere as girls

Wrong: You boys never do your work on time. Only the girls are sincere about their work.
Right: A few of you never do your work on time.

Women shouldn't have to be confined to desk jobs

Wrong: I want her to take up a desk job. Leave the outdoor jobs to the boys.
Right: She can choose what she is most comfortable with.

Boys can feel scared too

Wrong: Don't be a sissy. It's only a lizard.
Right: Did the lizard scare you?

You can take inspiration from these examples to come up with your own phrases in such daily conversations. The main idea here is to not divide human qualities, e.g. bravery, sincerity, building muscles, etc. by gender. This will help your son learn that there's nothing wrong with boys being emotional or, girls being assertive.

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Shruti Dewangan Feb 22, 2024

Really need this type of articles... thank you so much